After a conversation this afternoon with a friend, I find it imperative that I express my gratitude for my dear good ole RGNa who is now out of commission.. It’s
time she hung up her wheels and went to car heaven, for now she stands in the driveway awaiting her fate. the question that came up was; Am I grateful for having had her in my life? My answer is a very big YES, I am very grateful for the time we've had together. The trips we've taken and the memories made, school or work drops and shopping sprees! At the same time I think she has given all she can and our time together is up. Lately she's been more demanding of the tlc a car needs, and that can be a nag. It's like a relationship, once it starts taking more out of you than it is giving , it might be time to re-evaluate. I might get backlash from people who preach the long suffering gospel, but I stand by my wordslet me start from the beginning to give you context. When I got my dear RGNa there were glaring red flags, but I convinced myself I could live with them, work around them,and boy did I DO A LOT OF WORK.. It’s the Same with a relationship, red flags usually pop up at the onset, but we tend to convince ourselves that s/he will change, so we soldier on. Or the flip side, we sometimes choose to tolerate whatever the red flags are about, and live with it. So from the get-go we are working hard to neutralise, or trying to ignore the red flags. Soon you will get tired all humans are prone to tiredness and everything will unravel fast. I am being a little dramatic, but the truth is from then on its downhill. There won’t be anymore energy to make up excuses, but rather irritation at every instance. The red flags have a way of growing into huge stumbling blocks hindering your way into the future. Again, I ambeing overly dramatic, but theres a grain of truth. I ignored RGN's red flags at my peril, so when she left me in the lurch i have no one to blame but myself. What does all this have to do with gratitude?. I am very grateful for the time I've had with RGNa but I am also tired of dealing with the red-flags-turned-problems that she's been giving me. it's been a good run. time to admit that all good things come to an end, and gracefully part ways. I remember Bishop TD Jakes in his message on Goodbye, said "I have the gift of goodbye", and Beyonce in her song Best thing you never had said "I'm glad I found the good in goodbye". This to say sometimes we have to be okay with opening our hand and letting go of things, people and situations that do not serve us anymore. Each new season of life requires something new in us, and sometimes that means a new geographical location or new equipment.
I am gratfefor the lessons I’ve learned and the memories we've made. It's time for me to move on, this new season demands that I be comfortable with goodbye. What does this new season hold instore for you?
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